I have been pondering Judgement lately. The famous quote from the bible about not judging another lest you judge yourself. What does that mean to you? What does it mean to me? Its a big question.
I think there different types of judgment.
* Judging another because of their appearance.
* Judging another because you ‘know’ what they are thinking.
* Judging a whole race, religion etc.
* Judging yourself, your actions, appearance, personality etc.
* Judging another because of their beliefs or actions.
* Judging another because you know your right and they’re not.
The list can go on and on.
I have been thinking about my sister. I do not tell her my spiritual beliefs because I ‘know’ she will judge me. She will think that her spiritual beliefs are correct and that I am misguided and delusional.
But as I continued to think about my sister, I started to judge her. The thought of talking to her was irritating because her beliefs are so dogmatic….you can see where my ego is going with this right?
My judgement moved into pity which boosted my ego. My ego was having a bit of a party because I thought I was so much more spiritually advanced…..hmmm not good 😦
So I distanced myself from these thoughts and stared at them quite boldly. Why was I wasting my thoughts, my energy and my time judging my sister.
If my sister asked me questions about my spiritual beliefs then I would tell her the truth. No matter how uncomfortable the discussion might be or what the repercussions were. However I am never going to sit my sister down and ‘spiritually come out’ to her. A) because I dont want the drama and B) I no longer feel the need for her validation.
So my next step is what CAN I DO?
I know that judging her is a complete waste of my energy, but what can I do instead?
I have decided that when I judge – I will say a quick prayer, affirmation or positive statement. Whenever a judging thought comes up about my sister I will ask “Please take this judging thought from me, My sister is in the perfect place upon her own path and may her next steps forward be graceful.”
How much nicer is that….it is so much better then looking down upon her because I am so much more advanced then her.
I came to another realisation. What if this became something we could practice globally. Lets take a completely radical look at something which triggers alot of people – the current unrest in the middle east with the Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS).
Everyone dislikes and judges ISIS…they do some very bad things and we react negatively…this is very human and understandable, I am still doing this right this second because they evoke anger in me if I dwell on their actions.
However we can have 10 million people disliking them…but what if they used the above process and when they see them doing something bad. Say a prayer…. 10 million or more people praying for them to value their fellow humans as much as they value themselves. What if we had 100 million people doing this? a Billion?
I have now come to the root of the problem. We are a society which is programmed to judge. It is so common it is like a natural reflex. I have spent two days trying to remember the first time I judged and I cannot, its like judgement has always been a part of my life.
I remember witnessing my family judge others, I remember seeing it on tv but I also remember the feeling of being judged. It was such an icky feeling that as a child I would try my hardest NOT to be judged.
So the real question is – How do we get people to react with positivity and not judgment ? I do not have that answer. However I can say that I am going to try to send positive thoughts, love or prayers instead of judgement.
Because judgement is a complete waste of my energy! I cannot change my sister, my neighbour, my government or ISIS – but I CAN change me!